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No Electricity Tonight

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It’s 9:00 pm and I’m in my PJs curled up in bed with a book. I’m not really reading it. I’m a little bummed, a little down. 

I knew this was a possibility. The latest guy I met on Tinder has a very busy work schedule, it’s actually one of the things I like about him. We have been talking/texting for a week or so and he expressed the desire (yesterday) to grab a coffee this evening after work. Last night he had to go back into work after being home for a couple hours for an emergency. And these types of things happen on a weekly basis. And with Hurricane Matthew coming he did inform me that he could be working late to prepare for that. 


But today we were texting back and forth most of the day and then around 2:30 he got silent. At 6 he let me know he was still working. I understood and asked him just to let me know when he got off and we would see where we were with getting together. 

He didn’t leave work until after 8 and I wasn’t going to push. I really wanted to see him, and I had a sitter lined up, but after working 14 hours I understand. 

So here I am laying in bed with a book I’m not really reading. Bummed and tired and stressed all over again. 

Good night bees, it’s possible I’ll be going to a show this weekend with a different new match. I’ll let you guys know if that happens or if I have yet another date fall through. 

🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝

Bathroom wall inspiration 

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Tonight I went out with one of the Fun Four and my next post was going to be a little explanation of who the “Fun Four” are and/or about tonight’s date. I wrote a different post instead and as I was leaving Amelie’s, where I sometimes write, something on the bathroom wall caught my attention. 


I did indeed smile. I needed this. I’ll never know who wrote this, but thank you. 

Goodbye Hermine

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As Hurricane Hermine (I can’t help but want to pronounce it Hermione) 


pounds the coast of NC today, we are heading away from the storm and across five states into Oklahoma for a wedding. 


Red is driving, the boys are in the back sleeping, and I am relaxing in the passenger seat thinking I should probably get some sleep.  We’ll switch after a few hours and I’ll need to be refreshed. 

This will be a long trip but I think its an adventure I need. Stay tuned, I plan to take lots of pics. Have a safe holiday weekend. 

A Brother’s Love

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I am blessed to have a beautiful bond with my baby brother. We have always been close but since my separation, over two years ago, we have grown closer. 

Even though he is five years younger than me, Red, is protective, extremely supportive, and loving. 

After being stood up the other night we decided to head out on the town. We took a walk uptown and talked to a few people at The Green. It was so peaceful and nice out. The weather wasn’t too hot. After walking around for a while we decided to grab an early morning meal at Midnight Diner in uptown. This is one of only a few diners, in the city, open into the wee hours. 


We arrived around 3am and it was packed. We had to wait a few minutes for a table to be cleaned off. We noticed the noise level as soon as we opened the door. Red even asked our server if it was always so loud. She stated that it was only that loud after the bars and clubs closed. So, if you visit after 2am, expect it to be very noisy. At times the noise actually hurt my ears. 

But we pushed through and ordered. I ordered a bacon, egg, and cheese biscuit with an order of grits. 

And Red ordered:


So much food!


I have nothing negative to say about the food. The biscuits were fluffy, the grits were creamy, everything was delicious. And the prices were reasonable. The Bubba included so much food, Red had to take half of it home. 

The atmosphere on the other hand, was a bit much. It was loud and at one point one of the servers had to step in to calm one patron down who was trying to fight with others. Two police officers were also stationed out front, I’m guessing that is the norm.

The food is worth going again, I may just go at a different time when I return. 

Queen Bee on Bumble

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I’ve been using Bumble for a couple months. A friend turned me onto it with the allure that I would have control over who contacts me. 

Unlike some women, I don’t mind taking control. I don’t mind reaching out first. 

I’ve been on and off Tinder for about two years now and it always disappoints me. I revealed to my little brother, Red’s girlfriend (they met on Tinder) the other week that I had over a hundred matches and she couldn’t believe the sheer number. But here’s the problem, out of those 100+ matches maybe a dozen actually started a conversation with me. Do you know how depressing it is to have a hundred men in the palm of your hand and none can hold a conversation?!

“Bumble is redefining dating rules.” – Cosmopolitan 

A breakdown of Bumble (heterosexual):

  • You swipe potential matches. 
  • Once you match, the female has 24 hours to send a message. 
  • After initial message is sent, the male has 24 hours to respond. 
  • If the messages are not sent in the time frame the match disappears. 

I enjoy this type of online matching. It keeps my “que of matches” clean and only the men who are truly interested in chatting stick around. 

This week they have added some features to Bumble. 

  • You can buyback expired connections. 
  • You can purchase unlimited 24 hour extensions. 
  • You can sort through matches who have already swiped right on you. 

These just sound like ways to get you to spend money on the app but it’s nice to have the opportunity to get back a match that you let expire. 

If you’re not afraid to make the first move, give Bumble a try. 


These are my only my opinions, I am not associated with this app in any way. 

Dating Etiquette 

Just because we live in a technological age, it doesn’t mean we are allowed to forget our manners. We may be interacting with a screen, but it’s not just an image, it’s a person. 

Meet CableGuy. CableGuy reached out to me on POF (Plenty of Fish) a few days ago and this is how he did it: 


Now, don’t get ahead of yourselves because CableGuy is not who I’m referring to in this post. I found his message to be amusing but there was one problem…


After a good laugh, I asked CableGuy if he would like a do over and he impressed me so we chatted. And during our conversations I learned that he was going on a first date tonight with a woman he had been chatting with for months but had yet to meet. She set up the place because she had to work late and he was being gentlemen offering to drive over 30 minutes so she wouldn’t have to travel too far after work. 

So, CableGuy is sitting at a trashy bar in my hometown, only a few miles from where I currently live. He is waiting on his date but he is texting me. I learn that he isn’t really a drinker and he thinks bars aren’t ideal for a first date. He’s nervous because he’s uncomfortable at the weird, small town bar she chose. And his date is late. Thirty minutes after she was supposed to meet him he texts me and says he’s leaving. I ask him to call me because we were both driving. 

During our phone conversation he reveals (in a sexy, southern voice) that she walked into the bar with a friend. She had prior knowledge of where he was sitting because he texted and told her. Yet, she walks past him and parks herself at the other end of the bar, never making eye contact. In his nervous, uncomfortable state, he waits. He decides to send a text, which goes unanswered. He waits a little longer and then decides he had endured enough rejection for one night and gets up to leave. She never looks his way. 

I listened as he described how that made him feel. I allowed him to get it all off his chest. I felt embarrassed for him and pissed at her at the same time. 

Ladies, let me paint you a picture. CableGuy is 5’10”, athletic built, has short brown hair, hazel eyes, and a killer smile. I know this from his profile and the pictures he has posted. I am confident that when I meet him (which will be in a few days) he will not be any different from the above description. 

So, my question is why did SideTrack Trash (my name for his date) decide she was too good to have drinks with CableGuy? Why was she late for a date she arranged? At what point did she realize she wasn’t going to go through with the date? Why did she bring a friend? 

Don’t be like SideTrack Trash. Use the manners your parents or teachers instilled in you. 

  • Treat your date with respect. This should go without saying. 
  • Be on time. Arrive on time and if for any reason you will be late, inform your date and give an ETA. 
  • Give your date your undivided attention. Put your phone away, look him in the eyes, be present, and by all means DO NOT BRING YOUR BFF! 
  • Be considerate. Even if there is no chemistry, be considerate. Consider his time and effort and thank him for the evening. It’s ok to let him know that you don’t think there is a connection. 
  • Never stand up your date. If you need to cancel or reschedule contact him immediately. If you’ve had a change of heart or met someone else in the meantime, let him know. Guys don’t like being left out of the loop anymore than we do. 

My lesson from his experience is as follows: 

We all are on the same road. We’re looking for a companion, a friend, someone we can confide in. This journey can be exciting but it also can be scary and heartbreaking. Not every person we meet on this road is going to be our forever mate but we may make friends along the way. Be kind, be considerate, be respectful, have an open mind. You never know who you’ll come across next. 

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