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My Uberly Exciting Weekend

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This post is about a week late, its been a crazy week but lets focus on last weekend.

My weekend began with getting my boys up on Saturday and enjoying a meal together after running a few errands. I then dropped them off at my mom’s for some swimming and a sleepover.

While my boys were splashing in the pool, I took off to a bridal shower for one of my closest friends. I absolutely love celebrating with fun and amazing people, it’s so refreshing. The atmosphere was comfortable, the spread was beautiful and delicious, and the company was top notch.

Doesn’t this look beautiful?

I left the shower a little early to prepare for a date with Sparky, who is briefly introduced here.

I was looking forward to this night all week. I picked up a new dress just for the occasion, painted my toe nails a bright pink, and did the necessary grooming and primping.

Our plan was to have a few drinks at my house, call Uber for a ride to the movies, walk to a local pub and then call Uber for a ride home. Neither of us had used Uber before, this would be a new adventure for both of us and he took care of downloading the app and signing up before our date (a gentleman move).

He arrived right on time with a 12 pack of Corona and a couple limes. We sat on my couch, enjoyed our beer, listened to music, and just talked. It was nice and comfortable. After about three drinks I was feeling great. I may have definitely swayed my hips a little in the kitchen and sung along to the music I had playing.

The rest of the night continued on this same comfortable, laid back path. Our Uber ride to the movies was great, the driver was nice and very talkative. She mentioned her daughter’s school and since Sparky and I both have school age children there was no lull in conversation. The movie was not so great, or at least I didn’t care for it. I mention it in passing here. We finished the night at Hickory Tavern for more drinks and conversation. I will say, he was on his phone a little more than I would normally be comfortable with but I let him slide and he did apologize.

The Uber ride back to my house was probably one of the most exciting parts of the night. Not only was Sparky trying to get a little frisky with me in the back seat but the driver missed a turn and decided to take us a little sideways to get back on track and ended up in the same lane as an oncoming car. I’m pretty sure I squeezed his thigh a little harder than necessary.

Our date ended with me making breakfast Sunday morning. Everything in the middle was fantastic and THE most exciting part of the night. I hope to have a repeat of those events soon, very soon.

Sunday I drove up to Tanglewood with the boys and a friend. We did some hiking, visited the stables, and walked through the gardens.


We had a great time until the rain came. We will make another trip soon, maybe when it’s not so hot.

Queen Bee on Bumble

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I’ve been using Bumble for a couple months. A friend turned me onto it with the allure that I would have control over who contacts me. 

Unlike some women, I don’t mind taking control. I don’t mind reaching out first. 

I’ve been on and off Tinder for about two years now and it always disappoints me. I revealed to my little brother, Red’s girlfriend (they met on Tinder) the other week that I had over a hundred matches and she couldn’t believe the sheer number. But here’s the problem, out of those 100+ matches maybe a dozen actually started a conversation with me. Do you know how depressing it is to have a hundred men in the palm of your hand and none can hold a conversation?!

“Bumble is redefining dating rules.” – Cosmopolitan 

A breakdown of Bumble (heterosexual):

  • You swipe potential matches. 
  • Once you match, the female has 24 hours to send a message. 
  • After initial message is sent, the male has 24 hours to respond. 
  • If the messages are not sent in the time frame the match disappears. 

I enjoy this type of online matching. It keeps my “que of matches” clean and only the men who are truly interested in chatting stick around. 

This week they have added some features to Bumble. 

  • You can buyback expired connections. 
  • You can purchase unlimited 24 hour extensions. 
  • You can sort through matches who have already swiped right on you. 

These just sound like ways to get you to spend money on the app but it’s nice to have the opportunity to get back a match that you let expire. 

If you’re not afraid to make the first move, give Bumble a try. 


These are my only my opinions, I am not associated with this app in any way. 

HARMONY & TINDER & MATCH, OH MY

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A Whole New World of Dating

As a working, single, thirty-something mom how do you find time to date?

And when you have those precious hours, where do you go? The bar scene seems so depressing and the club scene is too loud.

For me, I would rather have a date lined up, allowing me to enjoy those precious hours of free time instead of stressing over where to go and what to do. Enter online dating!!

There are dozens of online dating apps, where do you begin? I say, pick one
(or two) and give it at least 2 weeks before throwing in the towel or trying another. Here are my tips on how to make the most out of online dating.

  • Upload pictures. Make your main picture stand out. DO NOT POST A
    GROUP PIC AS YOUR MAIN PHOTO. The guy isn’t playing “Where’s  Waldo?” A headshot is completely acceptable as long as you also have
    at least one full body shot. Let the guys know what you’re working with, trust me, they want to see it. Don’t be slutty, find attractive, well
    put together photos that show off who you really are. You don’t show  up to a first date in sweats and no makeup, leave those pictures out of
    your dating profile.
  • Don’t skimp on the details. Fill out all the boxes! I despise a profile
    that isn’t filled out. If it asks you what you’re looking for, answer honestly. Be as thorough as possible without writing a book. You want
    to leave something to talk about but supply enough information to give
    the guy something to ask you about. I’m very forward and it’s difficult
    to reach out to a guy and send the first message if he doesn’t tell me  anything about himself in his profile.
  • Log on regularly. A lot of these apps will list you according to the last
    time you logged in. So, if you want to be seen, log in regularly. I also find it easy to get overwhelmed, especially as a new user. You will get bombarded the first week. Keep your messages clean, delete the guys you aren’t interested in and keep your conversations flowing with the
    ones you want to meet.
  • Be honest with yourself. Do you know what you want? What you’re looking for? Guys are going to ask, so be prepared. If you’re looking for
    a serious relationship, make it known. If you’re looking for hookups, put it out there. All these sites have a fair share of men looking for hookups, if that isn’t you, let them know. Most men respect that and will move on. If they don’t, you can always block or delete them.
  • Go out. Don’t be afraid to go out.. When I first started this journey I let my mother get in my head with all this “be careful, he might me a serial killer!” mess. But let’s be honest, how likely is that to happen. If you’re a responsible adult, you can safely meet a man in a public place without fear of him being anything more than what he appeared to be on his profile. I have a person (I actually have 2) and I always reach out to them with who I’m meeting and where. I’ll send them a picture of the guy and all the important information, just in case. But they’ve never had a need to use it. Be smart and you’ll be safe. Most importantly, have fun.

There isn’t one app that fits all but as long as you use these tips, be yourself,
and put yourself out there, you can have an enjoyable experience. Let me
know how it goes, share your tips with me, your experiences, and any advice in the comments below.

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