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(Mr.) Electricity is out

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A few posts back I talked about a lineman I have been talking to. This week we had some pretty intense conversations. He revealed his trepidation about getting back out there after his last relationship. Apparently she was psycho and took him for the savings he had built up over the last five years since his divorce. Trust me, I get it. I, too have been taken for money by someone I thought loved me and it is difficult to trust after going through that.

But all I’m asking for is lunch or coffee and hell, we can even go dutch!

With my boys, I do not get a lot of free time and he understands that and he has even less free time, according to him. This is the first weekend in a month that I haven’t had my boys or been stuck inside because of the weather from a hurricane.

Regardless we spent most of the week texting throughout the day and talking about meeting up today (Saturday) since he is off. Monday, he even sent me a very happy text rejoicing in the fact that he had a week off of being on-call.

Then, yesterday he informs me that he was going to work an event that night and all day Saturday. He made it sound like he was forced to do this but I just can’t believe that. He said he was sorry but he had “certain responsibilities within his job that needed his attention.” I think this event was an out for him. He tells me that he could get lost in my eyes but blows me off for a two day event in his home town, only twenty minutes from where I live.

How long does it take to get lunch? or a coffee? This event is over at 6:00 pm tonight, I know because I planned on attending.

Well, I’m done. I don’t believe his story. I think if you are going to agree to plans you should be man enough to follow through. I’ve been laying around most of the morning checking out POF and Tinder. Not much is going on with Tinder but I’ve gotten a few messages on POF. And Red and his girl are on their way to rescue me and get me out of the house. Believe me, I can do that on my own but it’s nice to have people in your life who want to be there for you. I love those two and look forward to my afternoon with them, right after I take this car full of cardboard to the recycling center.

We are almost completely unpacked!!!

No Electricity Tonight

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It’s 9:00 pm and I’m in my PJs curled up in bed with a book. I’m not really reading it. I’m a little bummed, a little down. 

I knew this was a possibility. The latest guy I met on Tinder has a very busy work schedule, it’s actually one of the things I like about him. We have been talking/texting for a week or so and he expressed the desire (yesterday) to grab a coffee this evening after work. Last night he had to go back into work after being home for a couple hours for an emergency. And these types of things happen on a weekly basis. And with Hurricane Matthew coming he did inform me that he could be working late to prepare for that. 


But today we were texting back and forth most of the day and then around 2:30 he got silent. At 6 he let me know he was still working. I understood and asked him just to let me know when he got off and we would see where we were with getting together. 

He didn’t leave work until after 8 and I wasn’t going to push. I really wanted to see him, and I had a sitter lined up, but after working 14 hours I understand. 

So here I am laying in bed with a book I’m not really reading. Bummed and tired and stressed all over again. 

Good night bees, it’s possible I’ll be going to a show this weekend with a different new match. I’ll let you guys know if that happens or if I have yet another date fall through. 

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Dating Etiquette 

Just because we live in a technological age, it doesn’t mean we are allowed to forget our manners. We may be interacting with a screen, but it’s not just an image, it’s a person. 

Meet CableGuy. CableGuy reached out to me on POF (Plenty of Fish) a few days ago and this is how he did it: 


Now, don’t get ahead of yourselves because CableGuy is not who I’m referring to in this post. I found his message to be amusing but there was one problem…


After a good laugh, I asked CableGuy if he would like a do over and he impressed me so we chatted. And during our conversations I learned that he was going on a first date tonight with a woman he had been chatting with for months but had yet to meet. She set up the place because she had to work late and he was being gentlemen offering to drive over 30 minutes so she wouldn’t have to travel too far after work. 

So, CableGuy is sitting at a trashy bar in my hometown, only a few miles from where I currently live. He is waiting on his date but he is texting me. I learn that he isn’t really a drinker and he thinks bars aren’t ideal for a first date. He’s nervous because he’s uncomfortable at the weird, small town bar she chose. And his date is late. Thirty minutes after she was supposed to meet him he texts me and says he’s leaving. I ask him to call me because we were both driving. 

During our phone conversation he reveals (in a sexy, southern voice) that she walked into the bar with a friend. She had prior knowledge of where he was sitting because he texted and told her. Yet, she walks past him and parks herself at the other end of the bar, never making eye contact. In his nervous, uncomfortable state, he waits. He decides to send a text, which goes unanswered. He waits a little longer and then decides he had endured enough rejection for one night and gets up to leave. She never looks his way. 

I listened as he described how that made him feel. I allowed him to get it all off his chest. I felt embarrassed for him and pissed at her at the same time. 

Ladies, let me paint you a picture. CableGuy is 5’10”, athletic built, has short brown hair, hazel eyes, and a killer smile. I know this from his profile and the pictures he has posted. I am confident that when I meet him (which will be in a few days) he will not be any different from the above description. 

So, my question is why did SideTrack Trash (my name for his date) decide she was too good to have drinks with CableGuy? Why was she late for a date she arranged? At what point did she realize she wasn’t going to go through with the date? Why did she bring a friend? 

Don’t be like SideTrack Trash. Use the manners your parents or teachers instilled in you. 

  • Treat your date with respect. This should go without saying. 
  • Be on time. Arrive on time and if for any reason you will be late, inform your date and give an ETA. 
  • Give your date your undivided attention. Put your phone away, look him in the eyes, be present, and by all means DO NOT BRING YOUR BFF! 
  • Be considerate. Even if there is no chemistry, be considerate. Consider his time and effort and thank him for the evening. It’s ok to let him know that you don’t think there is a connection. 
  • Never stand up your date. If you need to cancel or reschedule contact him immediately. If you’ve had a change of heart or met someone else in the meantime, let him know. Guys don’t like being left out of the loop anymore than we do. 

My lesson from his experience is as follows: 

We all are on the same road. We’re looking for a companion, a friend, someone we can confide in. This journey can be exciting but it also can be scary and heartbreaking. Not every person we meet on this road is going to be our forever mate but we may make friends along the way. Be kind, be considerate, be respectful, have an open mind. You never know who you’ll come across next. 

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